Self-Pleasuring Games: Initiating Couples Fun
For many couples, penetrative activity is by far the preferred form of sensual engagement, but it doesn’t have to be the only way in which two people connect sensually. Self-pleasuring is also a big part of a person’s sensual life, and sharing that with a partner can be an excellent way to add a new level of intimacy to a relationship. Men fondle themselves anyway, as a matter of course and as an aid to their male organ health, so why not incorporate it into couples play? Of course, some individuals may be a little shy or reticent about self-gratifying in front of a partner – in which case some simple self-pleasuring games may help to “break the ice.”
What are some self-pleasuring games that a couple might employ to add a new dimension to their sensual lives? The possibilities are endless, but here are a few ideas to get started.
Use dice
A pair of dice can come in handy as a self-pleasuring aid in a number of ways. For example, assign odd numbers to the female and evens to the male. Roll the dice. If the total is odd, the woman begins self-stimulating; if even, the man does. Let’s say “six” is rolled. The man starts stroking and continues stroking as the woman rolls the dice again. If it is even again, the man continues stroking, and does so until the woman rolls an odd number – at which point she self-gratifies and the man rolls. Play continues in this way until release is achieved.
As a variation, one player rolls the dice and the other player must stroke his manhood or rub her female organ the number of times that appear on the dice. Players can also decide that instead of stroking themselves, they stroke their partner.
Use cards
Playing cards can also be useful to ease into self-pleasuring with a partner. A simple game of strip poker can be used to get the participants naked. After a player has removed all his/her clothes, they can then bet a number of strokes on a poker hand – such as, “I see your four strokes and raise you three.” Whoever loses the hand then strokes or rubs themselves the required number.
Another alternative: assign two suits (say, diamonds and hearts) to the woman and two (spades and clubs) to the man. Turn over the top card of the deck; whoever’s suit is revealed self-stimulates the number of strokes indicated on the card. So a nine of clubs would mean the man strokes his member nine times. (Face cards can be designated as 10 each.) Keep turning over until all the cards have been played, then start again – but this time, the number of strokes doubles. So an ace requires two strokes, a two requires four, etc.
Play hide and seek
Traditional rules apply, except the players are naked. The player who is hiding starts self-gratifying as soon as they are hidden; the seeker as soon as they finish counting.
Adapt a drinking game
Many drinking games involve watching a TV show or movie and taking a drink every time a certain word is said or situation occurs. Try this, except establish rules to self-pleasure instead of drink. For example:
• Self-stimulate ten strokes every time the lead character’s name is mentioned.
• Any time a number is mentioned, stroke oneself ten times that number.
• When watching a horror movie, start self-stimulating when eerie music starts and continue until it stops.
Self-pleasuring games can add zest to a long-time relationship – but men want to make sure their members are in good shape for this kind of tournament. Using a superior male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) can help. Look for a crème that includes L-arginine, an amino acid that helps produce the effect that keeps male organ blood vessels open and receptive to proper blood flow. The best crème should also include acetyl L carnitine, which protects against the peripheral nerve damage that can occur during rough self-pleasuring and which can diminish sensitivity in the manhood. Being prepared makes the games more fun!
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